Twice this week, my spouse has come home drunk. Last night, around 10:30, I was standing in the driveway with my dog, when a car came around the corner very fast. It was my husband. He flew into the driveway and into the garage, hitting the back wall, and putting a big hole in it. I am grateful that he didn’t go through the wall.
As he pulled himself out of the car, I suddenly felt myself taking two steps backward in my serenity. I was so angry that I wanted to lash out and scream at him. Thankfully Al‑Anon kicked in, and I remembered that I cannot talk or reason with someone who has had too much to drink. I shook my head and walked into the house. I sat in my bedroom and rehearsed all the words I would say to him in the morning—and they weren’t pretty. I was so angry that I had a very restless night.
In the morning, while waiting for him to get out of bed, I decided to read my latest Forum. Somewhere between the pages, I found myself calming down. I continued reading until I could feel my serenity restored. I realized my angry words would not accomplish anything, but my Higher Power could. I prayed to my God and I kept on reading my Al‑Anon books.
My punishing words went out the window and I concentrated on myself. I knew I needed to “Let Go and Let God” in order to handle this situation. When my husband finally came downstairs, I told him that I cared about him, but he needed to get help. Then I found a meeting to attend. I am so thankful for all the tools that Al‑Anon has provided for me.
By Gladys O., Ohio
The Forum, July 2014