How a newcomer handled relapse

After many years of alcoholism, my husband entered rehab. Our family life wasn’t perfect, but it was wonderful! Then he started drinking again, though nothing comparable to before. He’s struggling to hang on to his sobriety.

Al-Anon saved my sanity. I’ve been in the program for three months. I made my first phone calls to Al-Anon friends. The support I received was very powerful. I’ve decided to get a Sponsor and begin working the Steps.

I spent the week praying to my Higher Power, taking things “One Day at a Time,” and communicating my feelings with my spouse and three children.

I had a long talk with my 14-year-old daughter, who used to get enraged and isolate herself. This time, she actually talked for two hours, saying she understands alcoholism is a disease. My other two daughters also expressed this understanding.

I showed my husband my love, concern, and his worthiness as a unique, wonderful person. He responded with dignity. His shame seemed lessened, and I focused on myself. The serenity I felt was indescribable under the circumstances. I felt calm and accepting day by day.

By Claudette B., New York
The Forum, December 2008

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