The Forum Magazine

The Forum Magazine

Al-Anon's monthly magazine, The Forum, contains many personal stories of inspiration, some of which are made available each month on the Internet by authorization of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

I fled to the rooms of Al-Anon when both of my adolescent children were at the height of their disease of alcoholism. I was experiencing every possible emotion, not the least of which was blaming myself for, somehow, causing their disease. The confusion of being a parent of minor children who were acting against the law and against themselves was an on-going struggle for me. I would sit in meetings and hear members say “take your hands off, let them suffer their own consequences.” The concept of loving detachment was, for me, one of our program’s most difficult concepts to understand and practice.

It’s difficult to explain to newcomers how life can change if they stick around. I came in with a broken faith; so believing in anything other than the imminent disaster that was engulfing my life seemed impossible.

I was raised in an alcoholic home, and my first husband was an alcoholic. After our divorce, I noticed that my young son was drinking, and it bothered me. Someone I know suggested I go to Al-Anon. I was desperate, so I went.